unanswered questions

1. Are we born to spend our life in loneliness?

What struck me the most were how my parents reacted to ageing through isolation with the society. Besides being with the family and staying at home, nothing seems to bring interest to them. Inevitably, I sense their loneliness through their daily actions, like how they had avoided going out to social and how their temperament switches very often between happy and moody. Furthermore, as  their children, we grew older and moved on with our lives and the gap between us and our parents grew larger too. Thankfully, grandchildren were there to occupied their days. Otherwise, loneliness will creeped in further in their lives. 

Sometimes I ponder if they ever question their purpose of living in this world and had they fulfil their life goals. But, as a conventional asian household we keep our conversations very shallow, heart to heart talk seems to be sacred in my family culture even with my sisters who I wish to think that we hold a very close and strong relationship. I don't think I will ever find an answer to my question because this is what it is in my household...

Many people say loneliness is inevitable, as cliche as it sounds but there are truth in it. We must come to terms with the fact that we have to learn to be alone. We cannot depend and expect others to fulfil our need for love. Love starts from within. If we place too much expectation on people we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. However, if we learn to be there for ourselves, we can control our actions and thoughts. When we hold the control keys in our lives, we put the key of happiness in our own pocket and we give opportunities for our relationships to thrive unconditionally. I think the main idea here is to have more expectations on yourself and lesser on your love ones. I think it is a bonus in life if we happen to find someone in life that can support and understand us unconditionally but never place this idea as the key when looking to sustain a relationship with anyone. 

I hope I will not live to feel the loneliness in life 

TBC... 

2. Do you believe in that person when he/she says I love you to you?
3. Feeling unloved by someone close to you?
4. How happy people live in so much positivity?

These are questions I often ponder and currently searching for an answer...